Wednesday, August 15, 2012

The REAL, yet faded colour of life!


Today after Long, I woke up to a story of my very close friend that has instigated me to dust open my blog and scribble. I find it hard to even give it a title, but I can assure you its somewhere related to today's "Love". If it is even Love or not, is left for you to decide. 

When a girls parents start pushing for a marriage and start hunting for grooms, the girl is put into so much pressure to choose a "right" partner. The word right is stressed because we only convince ourselves that the boy is right in most cases. Today we live in a world were the girl has freedom of choice. Even if arranged, she has the final say. And during the same phase when no boy your parents bring impresses you and when a boy who is just your hang out friend, who you think has the qualities you are looking for becomes a star in your eyes (which has never happened before!). Its with that pressure on you to choose a guy that forces you into love. Its just one of the many reasons for falling into Love!  

Seeing so many love stories like this around, I have to say, I sometimes question myself,What or Is this true love? Well, At least, I got the answer today, the story behind my friends failed marriage. Things seemed to happen well for her, for it was like her dream come true - Marry a man she loved! Its sometime hard for us to accept, some situations that were well dealt before the wedding may not be so after. Be it love or arranged, a man is a man, with a slight hint of possessiveness and wanting to be the first priority. Most men/women today fail to see that, since we live in a modern world, taken over by Facebook, twitter, BB, Iphone,and being in constant touch with friends sometimes having no time for family. And being social is now being very active on FB, Twitter etc. This sometime can lead to lots of miscommunication and lack of trust on your spouse and shake a relationship that is already immature. Even with the latest technologies being invented, even if we come to a day where we can create a whole new world, a man's innate character will not change. Failing to understand this has led my friend to a failed marriage, thus a failed love. 

Even if this hasn't happened in her life I would have still found it hard to certify it as a happily-ever-after love story! Cause unless a couple have grown old together with still the same unshaken love, like in case of my grand parents, Its too soon to conclude!